So you decided to give online dating a chance but can’t decide what photo of yourself to post as your main image. Please, for the love of all things good, do not post bathroom selfie. As for the many people going through profiles who can appreciate a photo, how many times do we have to see someone starring at their phone while they take a picture of themselves in a bathroom mirror showing what shampoo they use and the dirty towels on the floor, oh and looks like you’ll need toilet paper soon pic. So that you don’t fall into the “Bathroom Selfie” category, here are some ideas of images to use.
If you are out and about with friends ask one of them to take a photo of you. Many sites claim that members will get more attention if you have a face image and a full body photo, and yes that’s a full body photo with clothes on. Well, I guess it depends on what dating site you are joining, but that’s for another post I guess. People want to know what you look like from head to toe.
Don’t have a smartphone? Use your webcam. Although this idea may seem simple enough, you’ll see that many people don’t realize how close they are to their cam and take extremely close photos or don’t know where to look or how to angle themselves. First clean up the clutter a bit in the background. Next check yourself out in the cam window, position yourself or the cam better so that you don’t get half of your face in the shot. Then look at the cam, not at yourself in the cam window, and click for the shot. Take a couple of them and post the best one to your dating profile.
Post solo photos of yourself, save friends, pets and children for a time when you really get to know someone. It’s nice that you want to share photos of your 10 cats or how many “bros” you have but this can be off putting to someone searching for their soulmate. Better to just mention in your description that you have pets and are close to your friends.
And last but not least if you are to take a selfie in front of a mirror, bathroom, bedroom or department store dressing room, be sure to look at yourself in the mirror, not your phone. Angle the phone so that it’s not covering your face and say cheese!
It almost seems that there is a daily story we hear about someone losing thousands of dollars to a scammer that they met on a dating site. We think, “how could someone be naïve enough to be willing to empty their bank accounts for someone that they have never even met?” But for the many out there looking for love and then one day finding someone that tells them all the things that they have been longing to hear, we can somewhat understand how people can fall prey to scammers.
We have compiled some common signs to look for if you think you have been talking to a scammer.
Look at their photo(s)
Do their photos look like normal candid photos or do they look like a professional headshot? Often scammers will steal photos that they find on the internet of up and coming actors headshots, porn stars, military men and women, and even from social media sites like Facebook. In today’s wonderful world wide web there are so many useful and even free tools that we can use to help us do a bit of investigating. For example, Google offers Image search that you can download to your computer for free and you can see where else on the internet the images appear, like RomanceScam.com.
Wanting To Take The Conversation Off The Site
Many scammers will try and get you off the site that you are currently on to go to instant messaging sites like Yahoo or Skype. This is their way of not getting caught and banned by the site. They usually will send out the same message to as many people as they can after registering and many times it will include their personal email address. If you have never heard from this person before and they want to talk to you off the site let this be a red flag. What’s the rush? Think of it this way, you are paying to be on a dating site that offers features like private and instant messaging. Why would you go off site to talk to someone when you are paying for it somewhere else? Communication features are offered by dating sites not only for members to communicate with but to help protect you. If you question the member you are talking to you can simply tell the administrator to further review that member’s profile. But if you take things off site, whatever happens off that site is totally in your hands, there is no Yahoo Administrator to look into a questionable member.
Let’s say you have been talking to someone for a couple of weeks. Things have been going great. You chat all the time and you think this could be the one. Then one day you get a message stating that they were traveling for work and their luggage with all of their money and passport was stolen and need you to send them money to pay for their hotel bill or some other travel expenses. Or you get a message that their child has become severely ill and is in the hospital and they need money to pay for their medical expenses. Should you get any messages like these CUT OFF ALL COMMUNICATION with this person!!! Tragic events like these are how scammers get vulnerable people to send them money. You should never under any circumstance send anyone money. Ask questions. Why isn’t your family or friends helping you out? What is the name of your hotel or the hospital? I’ll call them for you and take care of the bill (not really paying the bill) but it’s a way to see how they react. Do they stall, do they keep telling you to just send the money through Western Union? In cases like these you need to use your brain and not your heart.
Should you encounter or have encountered any of the above circumstances don’t let that discourage you from looking for love online. Be happy that you are now prepared to know what to look for and you can make better judgement on who are scamming for your money or are truly trying to win your heart.
As much as celebrities like to think they are normal people just like the rest of us, they travel on private planes and we wait at a gate for our boarding number to be called like a game of bingo. But when it comes to finding love we found that they are kind of like the rest of us. We all want to be loved by someone and share all those special moments in life with. So what better way for a famous person to find someone special while they fly to Paris for the weekend.
We searched to see what online dating sites celebrities have turned to when searching for their soulmate.
The most joined online dating site by celebrities is Match.com. The site has a celebrity members list that include Mariah Carey, Martha Stewart, the late and great Joan Rivers, Jenny McCarthy, Deborah Ann Woll and Ricki Lake.
Coming in at number 2 is Tinder – Hilary Duff, Carole Raziwill, Lindsey Lohan, Chelsea Handler & Ashton Kutcher.
It’s interesting to know that celebrities would put themselves out there in such a public forum all for finding love. Even professional matchmaker, Patti Stanger, turned to 4 dating sites including her own Millionairesclub123.com, before finding her now fiancé on POF.com.
If you have been looking for some romance and debating on joining a dating site, we say do it, who knows Madonna or Leonardo DiCaprio may end up trying online dating and you could be their match.
For whatever reason you are 50 or older and you find yourself back in the dating game. Life doesn’t always happen the way we dream and putting yourself out there on a profile can sometimes seem like a nightmare. Knowing where to find love again with so many options of dating sites, apps, matchmakers you may be wondering whatever happened to the good old days of bumping into your future mate while getting milk at the grocery store.
Dating times have changed and all this talk about apps like Tinder and Blendr and swipe one way if you’re interested and another if you're not doesn’t seem like your ideal way to meet someone then here are some options for you.
Try dating sites that focus on members over the age of 50. Today there are special niches of dating sites and sites like OurTime.com and SeniorFriendFinder.com offer members a chance to find someone that is actually interested in meeting someone their own age. A lot of the times joining mainstream sites can only make dating discouraging, when you find someone your age only to see that their contact age range is 21 – 35.
If you want to try a mainstream site try one that helps you along in your dating journey. Sites like eHarmony.com and Match.com really take the extra step to help you find someone. With these types of sites the process of registering may be a bit longer but you can rest assure that they are using the information you provide to match you with someone based on the answers you provide.
Dating at any age is difficult but with the right tools and information on how to get back in the game can help get you to spending time with someone genuine and special without swiping.
The thought of online dating can be intimidating to some and creating a profile that will stand out to Mr. or Ms. Perfect can be downright scary. If you’ve ever thought about trying online dating but just didn’t know where to start on creating that picturesque profile here are some tips to help you on your journey to finding love.
Do post a candid selfie
Not a group picture so that others will be confused as to who you are in the group, not a hunting shot with you and a bunch of dead animals around you, not a shirtless photo, save bringing back sexy for another day and certainly not a photo of you from 5 or 10 years ago. Whether we like to admit it or not looks do play a role in what we look for in finding that special someone, so why wouldn’t you offer the same in yours? Post a photo of you, what you really look like, without sunglasses or filters.
Don’t keep people guessing about you. If you are one to read other peoples descriptions but write on yours “Ask Me” then you are not getting people to notice you, in fact you are doing the opposite as most people will think, well if they don’t have time to write about themselves then I don’t have time to waste on empty profiles. You don’t have to write a book about yourself but at least some things that others with the same interests will want to know more about. For example, if you don’t know how to cook but want to learn you can say something like “I’m a total foodie that doesn’t know how to cook. Would love to find someone who can teach me or maybe take cooking classes together.” You have killed two birds with one stone. Something about yourself and what you are looking for in another person.
Describe what you are looking for
Be upfront with what you want or need in a relationship. If you know you are not good with long distance relationships say “I’m looking for someone local to date.” If you are active and like to take hikes or go to the gym then say you would love to find someone to go running with or who likes to be outdoors and enjoy what mother nature has to offer.
Don’t let other profiles make you shy away from creating your on profile. There is someone out there for everyone but you won’t find them unless you give it a try.